Blame is Easy. Supporting Moms is Harder (and More Important)

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Blame is Easy. Supporting Moms is Harder (and More Important)

When I was pregnant, I followed all the rules. I didn’t eat soft cheeses, sushi, luncheon meat, limited my caffeine intake, and more. 

My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage – which of course I blamed myself for. I doubled down on following the rules for subsequent pregnancies, wanting to do everything “right.” The result: two babies and one more miscarriage.

Even when you follow the rules, the outcomes can be different from your expectations.

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Late Again? Why Mornings with a Neurodivergent Child Are Anything But Routine

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Late Again? Why Mornings with a Neurodivergent Child Are Anything But Routine

For way too many years, I’ve stressed about getting my child to school on time. I felt this huge burden to watch the clock, get out the door at a certain time and arrive at school before the morning bell. 

While this is a struggle for many parents and caregivers, for those of us raising kids with anxiety, ADHD, autism and other disabilities, it can be a Herculean task. While yes, we do have unicorn days when the stars align and we make it to school on time, too often we have to navigate many stressors to get out the door.

If you can relate to what I’m saying, read on. If you’re shaking your head thinking that’s all children, definitely read on as I’m about to pull back the curtain of a typical morning in my household and why getting to school on time is such a challenge.

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Don’t Forget the Why in Your Annual Report

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Don’t Forget the Why in Your Annual Report

As a communications consultant, I write a lot of annual reports for non-profits, corporations and governments. While over the years they’ve evolved to be less text heavy, there’s still a common piece missing. People are forgetting the WHY.

Besides the financial data (which I’m not sure anyone reads), a typical annual report includes a summary of key programs and services. Sadly, some are still a dumping of information versus using storytelling to bring the programs and services to life.

Too often I see organizations wanting to share WHAT they did and HOW they did it, forgetting about the WHY.

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Why I’m Embracing a Structure Free Summer for My Child

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Why I’m Embracing a Structure Free Summer for My Child

We’ve finally made it to the end of the school year with two months of summer ahead of us. While some parents rush to sign their kids up for camps, activities and outings to fill the days, I’m embracing the free space. 

As mom of an autistic child, the school year is tough! It’s full of hurdles to navigate from sun up to sundown.

By the time summer rolls around we’re all emotionally and physically exhausted. There’s no mental capacity left to schedule more activities.

Embracing a structure free summer gives us all the break we so desperately need.

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You Can’t Fight Every Battle: Why Smart Advocates Learn to Say No

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You Can’t Fight Every Battle: Why Smart Advocates Learn to Say No

When you’re passionate about a cause, it’s easy to say yes when asked to help. But saying yes too quickly is a sure-fire way to drain your batteries.

This is a hard lesson that took me years to learn. I had a difficult time saying no, thinking, If I didn’t jump into help who would.

But when volunteer overload began to affect my physical and mental health, I realized it was time to take a step back and be strategic on how - and where - I spend my time.

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You Can’t Avoid Caregiver Burnout—But You Can Lighten the Load

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You Can’t Avoid Caregiver Burnout—But You Can Lighten the Load

When I first sat down to write this article, I titled it – How to Avoid Caregiver Burnout. But as I was reflecting on my own personal experience supporting my autistic child and adult brother, it became clear this just isn’t possible. However, there are some things you can do to minimize the impact on your mental and physical health.

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Why Getting a Diagnosis Matters

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Why Getting a Diagnosis Matters

Over the years as a speaker and advocate, I often have people say to me – oh I know my child is (insert condition) but I don’t see the point of getting a diagnosis. Or – I know I have (insert condition) so I don’t need a diagnosis.

Each time I hear this it takes all my effort to keep my internal voice from screaming at them – having a diagnosis matters!!

In the age of Dr. Google, we have a wealth of information at our fingertips. While it’s great to be able to educate yourself on a condition, it’s important to remember you are not a medical professional (and even if you are, you need an unbiased opinion).

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Why You Need to Stop Using Stakeholder (And What to Say Instead)

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Why You Need to Stop Using Stakeholder (And What to Say Instead)

One of the perks of being a keynote speaker is attending a lot of conferences. As someone who’s committed to continual learning, I always stay to learn from the other speakers. This not only helps me connect with the audience (reading the room before I speak) but also keeps me current in my public relations practice.

A big learning for me – one that I implemented a couple of years ago, but still see many clients using - is removing the word stakeholder from my vocabulary.

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Building Bridges, Not Barriers: Why Relationships Matter in Advocacy

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Building Bridges, Not Barriers: Why Relationships Matter in Advocacy

Not only do I spend a lot of time helping people strengthen their advocacy skills, I also spend countless hours advocating for my own family members. While there are times I’d love to shout and say what I really feel, I believe in the saying: you can attract more bees with honey.

This is why I focus on building relationships – even in challenging situations.

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Decades Later, the Fight for Educational Supports for Kids with Disabilities Remains Unchanged

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Decades Later, the Fight for Educational Supports for Kids with Disabilities Remains Unchanged

This summer, I spent time cleaning out my parents’ basement. Having lived in the same house for over 50 years, it was a treasure trove of old magazines, family photos, expired foods, vases and so much more.

One of the interesting things I came across in my purging was a binder from the 1980s about my brother. I know many parents and caregivers of kids with disabilities are familiar with this binder (I have a few in my house). It’s a summary of letters to the school, medical and therapy reports, assessments, and report cards.

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